How to choose great profile photos
A step-by-step guide to picking photos that perform.
Why You Might Not Be Getting Matches
A slow match rate is frustrating, but it’s almost always fixable. Here are the most common reasons — and what to do about each one.
Your main photo isn’t working
Section titled “Your main photo isn’t working”This is the number one reason for low match rates. Your first photo needs to clearly show your face in good lighting. If your current main photo is a group shot, very dark, has sunglasses, or is low resolution — change it first before anything else.
Your bio is empty or generic
Section titled “Your bio is empty or generic”A blank bio or a one-liner like “just ask” gives people nothing to work with. Even two or three specific sentences about yourself dramatically increases engagement.
Writing a bio that gets attention
Tips for writing a bio that starts conversations.
Your preferences are too narrow
Section titled “Your preferences are too narrow”If you’ve set a very tight age range or short distance, you may be visible to very few people. Try widening each by a few increments and see if your feed picks up.
You haven’t been active recently
Section titled “You haven’t been active recently”The app surfaces active users more prominently. If you haven’t opened the app in a few days, your profile visibility drops. Even just logging in and spending a few minutes browsing helps.
You’re not starting conversations
Section titled “You’re not starting conversations”Matches go quiet when neither person reaches out. Don’t wait — send the first message. A simple, specific opener based on their profile is all it takes.
How to start a conversation that gets a reply
How to write an opener that actually gets a response.
Your profile needs a refresh
Section titled “Your profile needs a refresh”If you’ve had the same photos and bio for months, consider updating them. New photos in particular can give your profile a noticeable boost in visibility.